The end point in culturing the qualities of a devotee is that beyond tolerable we are loveable. Am I loveable or toxic? What remains about me that makes me difficult or hard work for others? Consider Rupa Goswami's definition of auspicious character: loved by all, loving to all (Jagat-prininadi dvaya-pradatvam). At the end of the day and after all the heroic or clever halabaloo, am I loveable to others, and if so surely my God will love me.